So this blog post is a little different to my normal fashion and beauty ones, but I’ve seen a few bloggers write about this topic, and I felt inspired.
Say the word “self-conscious” and a million things spring to mind that I can relate too. Ever since a young age I’ve struggled with issues about my looks- I’m super tall and always have been! That is something I have struggled with for years. I used to get called names when I was younger, get horrible comments from rival teams when I played sport, and still get nasty comments in nightclubs and sometimes on the street! Even people saying “You’re so tall!” to me, with no intention of being nasty, made me feel insecure! Adding more to my issue, I suffered from acne (still do from time to time), had braces and being tall means I have larger feet and hands (weird thing to be self- conscious about but I hated it when I was younger). My weight fluctuates non-stop, and I constantly put myself under pressure to always be ‘in shape’. In addition to these body issues, I was never the most intelligent, sportiest, most musical person when I was younger, so I always felt inferior to those around me. And to top it all off, I suffer from anxiety a lot of the time which made me more aware of these issues and made me overthink everything! All of this contributed to a horrible time I had in my final year of school, where I felt so lost in who I was, I was so insecure and cried most days because I felt hopeless. I’m sure I am not the only one with an endless list of hang ups, but recently I have been able to slowly change my mentality, to start to accept who I am, which is why I wanted to write this blog to hopefully help some people with the same issues.
Something really important that I realised recently is that I simply cannot change some things about myself. Firstly, it is impossible for me to become smaller (I can slouch, but back pain is getting the better of me) and if I were to change myself, I wouldn’t be me. I know it is a classic cliche but what makes us unique is our differences from one another! My height makes me unique, gives me long legs that I always get complimented on and it has opened opportunities like modelling since I was 15! I am now starting to see the beauty behind my height and actually start to like it! Furthermore, I simply cannot change what people say about me- people have their own opinions and it is my choice to listen or not- and from now on, I just ignore them! I think an important issue here is that no one is perfect. You can see celebrities and models on Instagram and think they are totally flawless, but at the end of the day, people have bad days and things they wish they could change. Everyone has a spot now and then, lots of people have braces, not everyone is super talented at everything and a lot of people suffer from anxiety! I really have started to see how important accepting who you are is, and making sure you are the best version of yourself.
A few steps I am taking, moving forward, is picking on my strengths and improving them! Pick something you like about yourself and show it off! Accept yourself, because a lot of things are impossible to change, and in the end you can end up hurting yourself in the process of trying to change yourself. And finally love yourself. I know it is so much easier said than done, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with loving yourself. Being confident is beautiful, and important! As soon as you accept and love yourself, these little hang ups that seem like a big deal all of a sudden become smaller. I can honestly say that in taking these steps, and changing my mentality, I feel a million times better about myself.
I really hope this piece has helped anyone that has insecurities about themselves, even a tiny bit. I know this is a short blog but I am no expert on this topic. I am coming from a place of honesty, with the intention of trying to show that social media and pictures you see on the internet are simply not a true reflection of everyones life, and most people battle with self-consciousness from time to time.
Have a great weekend,